I think we can all agree that raping is bad. (Why? That is a whole other question, one that might—believe it or not—make us dig deeper into matters related to our existance, God, and evolution. But that’s not the topic for today)
Moving on, let’s get the parts we can agree on out of the way. We have already agreed that raping is bad and evil. We can also agree that blaming the victim of a certain crime for that crime is wrong and doesn’t make sense. If I rob you (alone), the blame for robbing you will be on me and me alone.
However, it appears that some people don’t get this. Whenever someone gets raped, robbed, killed or stabbed, some people take it to the social media to explain that how the victim is to blame for the tragedy they went through. These people seems to completely ignore the actual, more horrific part of the picture: the one who commits the crime.
This is likely to have some negative effects. For instance, this might lessen the enormity of the crime in the eyes of the criminal or the eyes of the society. If the criminal doesn’t face any of the criticism, rebuke or admonition, he or she might think that the society and anyone concerned blames the victims, and hence the victim deserves it and, what’s more, they should do it again!
Then there is the other side.
On the other side, we see the people who blame the abusers and criminals (and rightly so). These people also blame those who blame the victims for the crimes they were afflicted with. Again, rightly so. They raise their voice against the criminals and demand punishment for them. Again, no problem with that.
But, these people seem to forget some crucial pieces of information in their crusade, just like the people on the other side forgot the crime, forgot to blame the criminal.
They forgot that locking up the criminals and abusers is not the one and only way to reduce or stop crime.
They forgot that locking up rapists won’t stop other people from becoming rapists.
They forgot that locking up criminals can only happen after the crime has been committed.
They forgot that rapes can be reduced without allowing rapes to happen in the first place, without making any poor girls or women sacrifice their honor.
Think about it. If you want to lock up a rapist (because you believe locking him up is the only way to stop him raping), you can only lock him up after he rapes someone. That one victim who was raped, what did they lose? Can they recover it by any form of punishment that is inflicted on the rapist? Can any law in existance compensate her for what she lost?
Now, I am not saying you shouldn’t lock him up. No, no. They should be punished (according to the Islamic law that Allah revealed from above the seven heavens).
But that in no way rules out any means of protection that we should take in our lives. Should we allow our children to, say, play football on a highway, saying that the drivers shouldn’t hit them with their cars, punising them if they do? If not, why would we do something similar and allow the pictures of our little to be abused by some sick people on Facebook?
We should all take care and not let ourselves be a victim in the first place. In most cases, we lose something we hold so dear to our hearts that no form of punishment we inflict on the criminals will compensate us for it.
We should all take heed of the instructions of our Lord, when he ordered us to protect ourselves from all evils (not just punish the criminal afterwards). We should all take action to reduce any chances of us being victimized, by dressing modestly, dressing our children modestly (as it is has become crystal clear in these troubled times that not even little kids (or their photos!) are safe), staying away from dangerous situations, or any other forms of protection taught by our Lord, or proven through experience and research.
Prevention is better than cure (especially since cure in these cases is not actually a cure, it is just going through the tragedy).